I won't pretend to know what you went through. I'd like to think I'd have a level head and make the right decision if I were ever in the predicament you were in, but I probably would have absolutely no idea what to do. Under the circumstances, you handled the situation about as well as anybody could in my opinion. There also seems to be no right answer. I would never want to take care of a baby when I can't even fully take care of myself yet. But on the other hand, I don't know if I could give the baby up for adoption and live my life knowing that my child is out there somewhere and I may never get to know them. I know you told Vanessa and her now ex-husband that you had no desire to know anything about the child once you gave it up, but something tells you'll keep in touch with Vanessa and know some idea of how he is doing. I don't always approve of abortion, but I'm not against it either. Even if it was very early in the pregnancy, I don't know if I would go through with an abortion either.
That being said... what the hell were you thinking?!?!?! First of all, why would you have unprotected sex at 16 with someone you aren't really "with"? Ever heard of a little thing called Planned Parenthood? What about a condom? Apparently you didn't think of any of this before you got it on on the living room recliner. I get complicated relationships but this was just stupid. I don't think you did this because you were bored. It's obvious you and Bleeker have true feelings for each other but this was a bad way to express them. I think you screwed up but you didn't see it as a mistake, rather an opportunity to give someone like Vanessa a child she's always wanted but could probably never have herself and this was very selfless of you. It was heartbreaking to see you crying in the hospital bed after you gave him up; it showed the pain that comes with giving up your child even when it was your idea and you know you wouldn't be able to take care of it yourself.
I hope you have learned from this. I also hope the next time you have a baby you are older and in a steady relationship with someone you can rely on.
I won't pretend to know what you went through. I'd like to think I'd have a level head and make the right decision if I were ever in the predicament you were in, but I probably would have absolutely no idea what to do. Under the circumstances, you handled the situation about as well as anybody could in my opinion. There also seems to be no right answer. I would never want to take care of a baby when I can't even fully take care of myself yet. But on the other hand, I don't know if I could give the baby up for adoption and live my life knowing that my child is out there somewhere and I may never get to know them. I know you told Vanessa and her now ex-husband that you had no desire to know anything about the child once you gave it up, but something tells you'll keep in touch with Vanessa and know some idea of how he is doing. I don't always approve of abortion, but I'm not against it either. Even if it was very early in the pregnancy, I don't know if I would go through with an abortion either.
That being said... what the hell were you thinking?!?!?! First of all, why would you have unprotected sex at 16 with someone you aren't really "with"? Ever heard of a little thing called Planned Parenthood? What about a condom? Apparently you didn't think of any of this before you got it on on the living room recliner. I get complicated relationships but this was just stupid. I don't think you did this because you were bored. It's obvious you and Bleeker have true feelings for each other but this was a bad way to express them. I think you screwed up but you didn't see it as a mistake, rather an opportunity to give someone like Vanessa a child she's always wanted but could probably never have herself and this was very selfless of you. It was heartbreaking to see you crying in the hospital bed after you gave him up; it showed the pain that comes with giving up your child even when it was your idea and you know you wouldn't be able to take care of it yourself.
I hope you have learned from this. I also hope the next time you have a baby you are older and in a steady relationship with someone you can rely on.
Sincerely,
Rachel D.